![]() ![]() It's nothing you did, and I honestly don't know why I'm feeling so paranoid. Tell her "I don't really know, but I always feel worried that you might cheat on me, or are. It will only lead to her going into defense mode and chances are it will start a fight, only making you even more paranoid. Make sure you don't start off saying "I think you're cheating on me. You may just have trust issues and hopefully she will try to help you through them and understand. But it's important that instead of accusing her of cheating that you explain to her that you are just feeling worried, and that you're not sure why. We all feel insecure sometimes, including myself. You may be feeling insecure, and that's okay. A lot of the times jealousy and a lack of trust has nothing to do with the other person, but yourself. Also, if you have been cheated on before, have had friends who've been cheated on, or even parents who divorced or cheated can all make you much more suspicious. ![]() If she has cheated on you before then this would make anyone a little more cautious. Again, it is important to ensure them that you are not accusing them though, as this can lead to defensive behaviour which is not a good situation for a discussion and to work through things. This greatly strengthened our relationship. This allowed me to look at the situation from her perspective and I could see that sometimes my behaviour would indeed be worrying to her and I was able to correct myself. My own partner took this approach with me and we walked about every little thing that triggered these thoughts. Talking and finding ways to move past this together can make your relationship stronger. Explain to them that you realise these feelings are based only on emotional fears and you are not accusing them of anything. Avoid the trap of imagining hypothetical scenarios based on non-existent proof and trying talking to your partner. ![]() First ask yourself why you feel this way? Often it is fear driving it with no proof beyond imaged proof. When you really love someone there is an underlying fear of losing them and one of the worse types of losing them, is losing them to someone else. It's not an uncommon thing but this can be toxic to a relationship. ![]()
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